First. Congratulations on getting that degree. Now you’re probably eager to make it pay off. I recently heard from a new graduate (Ask Ellis) wondering whether his alumni association would really be a good resource. My answer was that alumni associations are among what I think of as the gold standards of networking. It's your club. There's automatic affinity to fellow alums, particularly in schools that have a relatively close-knit community. Accessing alums from your school will yield much better networking results than with strangers (but don't write that latter option off entirely, either).
But I’d hate to see you rely on those alumni affiliations alone. Let me put them in a broader context so you can see where they fit in as you start your networking.
Since, by most accounts and research, getting job offers through networking technique constitutes the vast majority of your total job possibilities, you’re going to have to build a substantial contact list. Does this mean you have to be a back-slapping, “Yo, let’s do lunch” type? Do you have to know the movers and shakers right away? Must you be highly social? Yes, of course it might help if you pursued that private equity career and Henry Kravis’s nephew was your best friend in elementary school. Or it would be great if you were the type of person who went out every night and found it easy to meet people everywhere you went. Or, perhaps your father is CEO of Time Warner.
But most of us are not like these people. We might know a couple of people who know a couple of people, and maybe we worked with someone who has all those relationships. Yet, we’re still going to have to start somewhere. I suggest an “ABC” contact list.
· The “A List”
This list includes: all of the people you know of who are a level or two above where you think you would be in the organization and function where you want to be; peer level, who could be valuable sources of information and possible access to those above you; and people familiar enough to you so that you can comfortably call them.
· The “B List”
This list includes all of the people in the “A List” except that you’re not necessarily comfortable calling any one of them right away. Maybe there’s someone you haven’t spoken with in years and feel a bit awkward calling. Maybe there’s someone you don’t know that well and should write to first. Or perhaps there’s someone you don’t know at all, but you’d like to meet because you think you could learn significant information and perhaps build new networks. Or maybe there’s someone you don’t really like but you’d like to contact anyway.
· The “C List”
The “C List” consists of everyone else you know of who might provide connections to those who would be on an “A List” or “B List.” How about the person who cuts your hair, your extended family, or your dentist? All of those people know others who may work in your targeted area. One of my favorite resources is college and graduate school—sometimes even high school—alumni associations. Alumni associations are particularly powerful networks for attorneys and MBAs. Those who were lucky enough to attend small private colleges will have access to a sort of private club—the college’s alumni database. Membership in that club is a major motivation for gaining entry into many colleges, universities, and graduate schools. Even if you didn’t attend an elite school, many other colleges and universities have well-established alumni organizations and alumni databases.
Professional associations are another favorite “C List” source. Join one (or more) in your target areas. Get on a committee. Two of the best committees are the membership and program committees. Why? In the first, you have access to the membership lists, and in the second, you can source and possibly meet key professionals in your field.
What about political or religious organizations? In this last category, I’ve found very few groups can match Mormons or Orthodox Jews for quick affiliation and building strong networks. I had two clients a few years ago who were Mormons, one living in New York City and one in New Jersey. They were able to build significant networks immediately through their church and extended family and friend affiliations. (One of them landed a terrific job in, of all places, Las Vegas.) I also had an American Orthodox Jewish client who lived in Jerusalem, and he relocated to Cleveland (don’t ask) where he had never been and had no acquaintances. He built fast networking relationships through a synagogue there, despite not being especially assertive or outgoing.
Here’s the good news. All you need is a minimum of five people after you’ve thought through your ABCs. Most job seekers will have more than that, but some—maybe introverted or recent arrivals to an area—will have a smaller number. Even if you only connect with two out of five, you will be able to build the beginning of a successful search based on referrals and information from those two. That’s just the beginning.
From In Search of the Fun-Forever Job: Career Strategies that Work, available inpaperback and ebook.
Job search - Don't let a few bad stories shake your confidence and common sense
I spend every day talking to clients and students about finding jobs, changing careers, improving their current employment situations. Frankly, I couldn't go to work, if I didn’t believe that
- good jobs exist
- companies are hiring
- targeting and getting good jobs is doable.
There’s no doubt it helps to have confidence in yourself and your abilities when you start a job search. Not always easy to do in a process that often involves so much disappointment, discouragement and rejection. Keeping yourself on an even emotional keel is almost as much work as the search itself. That’s why I advise people to exercise and socialize. Why I tell them to not trust to just one person’s assessment of their chances for success in a new company or a new field. Why I tell them to keep good records, not only of their contacts, but also of their accomplishments.
Then along comes a report in the media, saying how hard it is for (you pick the category) -- older workers, college grads, senior executives, female middle-managers -- to find work in this economy and the panic starts again.
I recently heard from a woman (Ask Ellis) who’d seen a story about older workers having a miserable time finding jobs. It played right into her worst fears. I had to remind her that negative stories sell. But they’re not always accurate because they’re telling just one side.
So what can you do when you’ve been looking for six months already and you read that the longer you’re out of work, the harder it is to get a job?
Ignore it. Find the job search techniques that work for you and keep at it. And then keep at it some more. As I said from the start, I know it's doable. I see it every day.
Is there really a fun-forever job?
from the Preface of In Search of the Fun-Forever Job: Career Strategies that Work
The title of my book came from my daughter who, at age eight, wrote and illustrated a “book” called When I Am Grownup. I’m not sure that most eight-year-olds would be concerned about professional choices or involved in much self-reflection, but she was the daughter of a career consultant and a psychoanalyst and could hardly avoid this type of thinking. It was genetically predetermined.
In her book, Hannah ruminated about her possibilities. She felt she’d want an “unushowoll” job “that I can do most anything I want in, something like the fun-forever job.” She worried that such a job might not be available and considered other options (a headshrinker or a headhunter) but continued to feel concern about even those jobs working out.
What was particularly striking to me was that so many of my clients and students have expressed a similar wish for a totally fulfilling career, as if they hoped to discover their perfect, passionate calling out there somewhere.
The concept of a “fun-forever job” is amusing because everyone—including, perhaps, Hannah at age eight—knows that it’s absurd. This does not appear to prevent people from wanting it anyway.
Of course there are a few lucky people who seem to have found that fun-forever job, or think they have, but the number of such people is indeed very small. A job means work, meaning on a daily basis, on most days of the week. Seeking consistent passion puts a heavy emphasis on something that is rarely achieved and often leads to disappointment and discontent at work. Of course, it’s possible to love a job or be passionate about a career, but forever? That’s like looking for a lifetime soul mate who’s great looking, rich, witty, sexy, and sensitive—someone you’ll feel excited about all the time for the entire relationship.
To some degree, the search for the fun-forever job has continued for Hannah, as it has for many of my clients, although they refer to it in different terms. Sometimes, it’ll be “something totally exciting,” and other times it’s as basic as “something I won’t dread every day.”
I believe career development should be a process that includes figuring out what works and doesn’t work, clarifying personal values, understanding personal style, and leveraging that knowledge moving forward. It doesn’t have to be a lifetime decision. Sometimes it may mean that your job only needs to be reasonably good if it supports you and provides you with a salary, security, and benefits, and you can gain the passion part from what you do outside your job. Or you might turn your full-time job into a part-time one and work on several different activities outside of your core job. There are many other permutations; the key is to not put the pressure of the Big Decision on yourself too early and to realize it may take some time to develop a career that suits you.
My own career path, as I explain in Chapter 1, is a good example of the many twists and turns you may need to take to reach that point. I’ve written about my own experience in the hope that others who find the career development process complicated or painful may understand better that it often involves a series of realizations and changes—sometimes even circling back to what you knew in the first place.